About The Book. About The Author. Sandy Hotchkiss. Product Details. Raves and Reviews. Resources and Downloads. Trade Paperback The author devotes all of Part I to these seven. These pages lay out the problem and ring lots of bells for any reader about problem people we have all known in our working lives--if not in our families and personal relationships. Afterward, Hotchkiss returns to a too brief treatment of the causes and background of "unhealthy" narcissism and distinguishes it from the healthy stage of childhood development and the continuing "healthy narcissism" which everyone needs in order to work and function in contemporary society.
Her focus is on offering strategies for dealing with the unhealthy narcissists in our lives, and this book is very effective in setting forth such helpful measures. Hotchkiss, whose degree is in social work, doesn't conclude without a hard swipe at the "narcissistic society" and all the pumped up, false proponents of "self-esteem" who have, in her view, turned some children since the 's into "entitlement monsters.
In general, she is for a return to sensible parenting that can raise up a generation in better touch with reality than some recently inflated and distorted ones. Buy this book if you already know that unhealthy narcissism affects people you must deal with; buy it, too, if you have been hurt by a narcissist or two and need to clarify what has happened so you can get beyond these harms.
And even if you are a counselor or therapist and experienced with narcissistic clients or their victims in therapy, you will find in Why Is It Always About You? David M. Wolf, M. His undergraduate education in Philosophy was guided by Prof. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism - shamelessness, magical thinking, arrogance, envy, entitlement, exploitation, bad boundaries - and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation.
Narrorator is a bit robotic sounding but the utilitly of the material is vastly important. The reading wasnt very good. And the book delt too much with the symptoms and characteristics of narc vrs encouragement o f dealing with one.
Good book. Really informative and well written. However, don't waste your time and money on an audio version. The narration is nothing short of terrible. The lady's voice is constantly shaking and frankly my car GPS speaks with more emotion. Seriously, she sounds more like AI than a real human being. The performer's voice is quite robotic, I could have used Google text-to-speech feature with similar results.
The story is interesting and engaging though, one will notice many his own traits in described issues. Sometimes author makes narcissists look like the one and only evil on the planet Earth, but it's okay if taken with a pinch of salt. The narration really sounds like text-to-speech. I went and double check whether it was an actual human and I was astonishing to found out that in fact she was human.
I could have got the same by buying the eBook and listening to it via Kindle text-to-speech. This book contains quite a few really helpful insights, but I'd recommend reading Susan Forward's Toxic Parents before reading this book. Overall, I'm glad I read it, but the narrator, Amanda Carlin, has the most sleep inducing voice. I recommend listening on 1.
They assume an essentially passive role and count on outside forces to make them happy. By claiming entitlement, they demand to live in the fantasy world of the one-year-old child. Entitlement and the rage that comes with it are tip-offs to the arrest in healthy development that is narcissism.
If you cannot make yourself useful in meeting my need, you are of no value and will most likely be treated accordingly, and if you defy my will, prepare to feel my wrath. Hell hath no fury like the Narcissist denied. Narcissists hold these unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves uniquely special.
In social situations, you will talk about them or what they are interested in because they are more important, more knowledgeable, or more captivating than anyone else. In personal relationships, their sense of entitlement means that you must attend to their needs but they are under no obligation to listen to or understand you. How dare you put yourself before me? And if they have real power over you, they feel entitled to use you as they see fit and you must not question their authority.
Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger rage and self-righteous aggression.
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